There are some things you should never say to your child. Some of these are: Avoiding comparing yourself to someone else, telling your child you're immature, and telling your child not to cry. These things may seem harmless, but they can cause a lot emotional pain.
Be careful not to compare yourself with others
Comparing yourself to other people is a bad habit. It not only makes you feel bad, but it also drains your energy. Comparing your life with others doesn't lead to betterment. It can lead to depression. Comparing yourself with other people's lives can increase your time-spending, and cause envy. Don't compare yourself to others. Instead, be focused on your own goals.
The main problem with comparing ourselves to others is that it doesn't show us the complete story. One person may appear successful and wealthy, but it's impossible to know their inner lives. It's the same with colleagues. While they may appear attractive, you will never find out if he is married to his ex-wife, and has two children.
Be careful not to tell your child they are too young
Your child may be struggling with a skill. Do not point it out and tell them they are immature. It can make them feel uncomfortable, and it can discourage them speaking up. Instead, encourage your child to find a new hobby that interests them.
Do not tell them to stop crying
Despite what you may think, telling your child to stop crying can make your child even more upset. It gives your child the impression that you are getting worked up over their tears, which will only make them feel worse. Instead, you should try to minimize the incident and encourage your child to talk about their feelings with other adults.
You can support your child through difficult times by using positive phrases and helping him or her process their emotions. While it is common for parents to say that their child should stop crying, this can sometimes come across as disapproving, demeaning or worse. This will make your child feel worse and increase their need for help.
Avoid saying "You're okay"
Sometimes, it can be problematic to say "you're fine" to your child. The implication is that we are trying to reassure our children that they're fine, even if it isn't. But the truth is, most things that upset a two-year-old aren't catastrophes. Most of the times, we mean what we say when we say "You're okay". But sometimes children aren't in the right state to take comfort from the words.
Instead of telling your toddler "you're fine", ask him "why aren't you upset?" This will help your toddler understand what's bothering him. This way, you can determine what needs to be done. Avoid saying "you’re okay" to your child when you are concerned about him falling.
You should not encourage your child to share their feelings.
It's a great way for your child to communicate their feelings without having to say it. To talk about feelings, you could use the body metaphor. Instead of telling your child not cry, you might ask them how they are feeling and what they can do. When they share their feelings constructively, you can praise them.
FAQ
How can I tell if my child needs more or less discipline?
Different developmental stages may require different amounts or discipline.
A spanking may be beneficial for children younger than 2 years.
Your child may require more structure and guidance if he/she is older.
Before making any major changes to your parenting style or behavior, you should discuss the changes with your doctor.
What should first-time mothers learn?
First-time mothers need to realize how much they still have to learn. They must also realize that they are not the only ones on this journey.
Many other women have been there before them. These women have learned from their mistakes.
They'll find support and encouragement from these women.
And they'll feel less isolated as they make their way into motherhood.
Is it more important to be strict with your child?
I believe you should strive to be a strict mother. It's essential that children learn how behave. However, if they are not behaving, then they need to be disciplined.
You have to teach them how to act properly. You don’t want them to be wild or they could hurt another person.
You will find that being a strict parent is more difficult than being a permissive one. You will see rebellion in your children if you give them too much freedom.
However, if you give them too little freedom, they won't know how to behave themselves.
It's hard work being a strict parent, but I think it's worth it.
Why is it so difficult to parent teenagers?
While it may not be easy, you have to try to understand your child. They need to be allowed to develop and learn on their terms. They are special people who have their own ideas and opinions. They are also growing up to become adults. Be patient and understanding.
They will make mistakes, and sometimes they will behave badly. Remember that mistakes are part of human nature. You don't always know what they're going to do next.
Keep your ears open and listen to them when they speak. Do not judge them. Try to see the world through their eyes.
Most importantly, unconditionally love them. That way, they will become better people.
Statistics
- Students from authoritative families were likelier to say that their parents–not their peers–would influence their decisions (Bednar and Fisher 2003). (parentingscience.com)
- Dr. Phil says, “Children should be able to predict with absolute certainty, what will happen as a result of their behavior, 100% of the time.” (parenting.kars4kids.org)
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How To
What are common mistakes parents make?
Parents often don’t know what to do with their children when they behave badly. They may not realize that there is a problem until it happens again. They may believe that the child is acting out because they don't like them.
To raise a happy, healthy kid, you must set limits and consequences for bad behavior. You have to teach them how to behave. You must also help your child understand why certain behavior is wrong.
Setting rules for yourself is a good place to start. For example, you might tell yourself, "I won't yell at my kids." Then, you will find that you are less likely to yell about your children.
These guidelines can also be used to help with dealing with your child’s misbehavior.
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Set clear expectations.
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Respect those expectations and be consistent.
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It is important to ensure that your expectations align with your values.
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Keep your emotions under control.
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Empathize.
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Do not punish them for actions they did not control.
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Give them time.
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Offer positive reinforcement instead of negative punishment.